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Social Media and Mental Health – I’ve wanted to address this subject for a while now and thought this time of year is perfect. I want to talk about how our content can affect others, should we be mindful about not posting if we know, even an innocent post could upset a friend or family member? What can we do if going on social media is spoiling our mood but yet we really don’t want to stop looking?!
I took the decision this year to actively not post about our Christmas, not on my private Facebook and not on any of my other social media’s that are open to anyone and everyone (for my business).
Not because we’ve had a bad Christmas, not at all, we’ve been very lucky and blessed this year with a very happy, family oriented Christmas.
The reason I’ve chosen not to post is because of something I read in November. The article said that people posting about lavish dinners and mountains of presents are not considering other people’s feelings and situations.
I can’t fully agree with that assumption. Why? Because if we all started considering who our content or our post might upset or offend we would never post anything. I guess we have to approach this in a logical way.
For example, Facebook has an option of posting something but you get to pick who does and who doesnt see the post. If does get more difficult if your posting on a business page but I think a little consideration can go a long way when posting on social media, unfortunatley problems occur when people just post whatever they want.
I’ve never posted anything to social media with the intent of making others jealous or envious, its just not the type of person I am. I post to social media to keep distant friends and family updated about our little antics, and I post content relating to my blog and YouTube (business things) to update my readers.
I do acknowledge, however, there are others out there who’s sole intention it is to always make everything look perfect and to make them look amazing and you feel yuk! However, that’s not the norm, honestly, it’s the exception. In those situations, the only real advice I can give is to try your hardest to just scroll past in the knowledge that you know better.
The article did get me thinking though, I do love to share a whole album of photos each year, of every seasonal celebration, not to show off but to create memories that I can look back on in the years to come and to maybe get a conversation going with friends and family about their celebrations.
What I’ve never thought about is the effect my posting has on someone else, it could be anyone, they could be struggling to feel motivated, happy, they could be alone or feel alone even though they are in a house full of people.
I try to never post anything inappropriate, I do double check it isn’t going to trigger someone’s anxiety because of what I’m writing about and I try to check it won’t set of someone’s PTSD however, checking everything so it doesn’t affect anyone is impossible because I can’t possibly know what triggers everyone has but I can work with what I know affected me and make sure it’s suitable for symptoms similar to mine and also using ones common sense in these situations should be standard really.
Surely people struggling know that an awful lot of social media is only half the story, it’s a
It’s just not as simple as that, is it? If I’m feeling low I turn to social media as a distraction, sometimes it helps and others it doesn’t but I’ve known life before social media and thankfully I’m healthy and stable enough now to understand that life isn’t all
People having a tough time don’t have the luxury of always being rational, I know, I’ve been there. I’ve looked through social media in the past and thought I’m a failure as a Mum, as a wife, even as a human, I should be providing more, organising more, cleaning more thoroughly, buying healthy food, just all the things!!
But I’m dead certain that most of the posts I’d seen were just people using social media in their daily life, posting updates for family and friends and not wishing me any upset whatsoever.
What you must remember is people mostly only post good things. Happy times in their life they wish to share for whatever reason, to share with friends and family, to make memories to be looked back on and yes, some will be posting to show off. You need to remember that these are only snippets of someone’s life, a glimpse. They are not a full and true representation of that person’s life nor what they are going through.
Are you having a tough time and social media is making it just that little bit worse? Is there someone you can reach out to, the first step is always the hardest but can be the most rewarding.
So if you’re struggling this year with whatever it is, hang in there because the feelings and or a situation will pass, it won’t be easy, you may have work to do to help it pass, but it does pass, stay strong and remember people do care and you are worth it.
My conclusion is simple, do you know of a friend or family member having a tough time of it? Could you reach out to them and see if they are ok? Is someone you know struggling with social media? Can you sit down with them and help them to realise it’s not all it seems in peoples posts?
Does someone you know seem to use social media a lot and then you don’t see them for days or
It could be that person can’t face posting and interacting because they are fed up or struggling with their mental health. It could be they have had an attack of shyness and self-doubt.
These two things are common and can just need a little message off a friend or family member saying “hi, is everything ok?” Or even a phone call! I know shocker! The last reason could purely be the person has been super busy and just hasn’t had time to post!
Plus remember, always remember that all social media posts are just a snippet, a split second glance of someone else’s life.
Have you ever struggled with social media? Whether you’ve struggled with your mental health or not it can affect all of us and one point or another.
Please remember you’re not alone and I’m sure if you have someone you can confide in, once you start to talk it will make you feel better; trust me I know I’ve been there. I was the last person on earth who wanted to talk to someone.
I vowed I could deal with it myself but that was not the case once I did start to slowly open up to someone I noticed my feelings of dread eased.
I eventually started to feel the weight of the world lift of my shoulders and after a few sessions, I started to be able to browse social media without feeling resentment that my life wasn’t as fabulous as everyone else’s I also realised that everyone life wasn’t fabulous all the time.
How about you? Have you or do you struggle with social media or do you have a friend who does? Do you want to have a chat about your struggles, either pop a comment in here at the bottom or pop over to my social media, I always try to answer any questions.
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