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Two birthdays every year am I mad? Is he spoiled? What the heck!! No! He has a Christmas Day birthday!
My December birthday
Funnily enough, my birthday is December 21st, I grew up always getting all my presents pretty much at the same point in the year, 4 days apart.
My Mum always encouraged people to give me two separate presents and they had to be wrapped correctly, one in birthday paper and one in Christmas paper and bless them everyone obliged.
This mostly happened when I was under 12, once I turned a teenager, my Mum wasn’t quite so strict with everyone!
But compared to my son, I was lucky. I might have got fed up in summer when all my friends seemed to be having birthdays and getting all the latest trends, summer clothes, summer toys, etc.
However, I did, at least have two exciting days to wake up to, my birthday morning and Christmas morning.
My sons Christmas day birthday
Unlike my lad who has a Christmas day birthday! He only gets one night to go to bed excited, one morning to wake up and feel that rush of excited nerves.
To be honest, it can be a bit much for a small child, all that excitement, all those nerves all wrapped up in just one day!
A “half-year” birthday
So we decided on the day he was born that he would get a “pretend” birthday, halfway through the year.
We started this tradition when he turned 3. So, on (or as close to as we could get it) the 25th June our son has his “half-year birthday”, where he’s allowed to choose a few summer presents or clothes.
He gets balloons and banners and a birthday cake and if he was the sort of kid to like birthday parties we’d do it in June, but he’s not. When he’s offered a birthday party he’s always said: “no thank you”.
He doesn’t get any cards in June and we have never asked any friends or family to join in, they stick to his official birthday.
The June birthday is just a little something me and his Dad do for him so he gets to have 2 mornings of excitement.
How it affects his “real” birthday
I do take into consideration, on his Christmas day birthday the amount of presents he gets, so he’s not getting overly spoiled, he gets his normal Christmas presents of us and he gets Christmas and separate birthday presents of family and friends but me and his Dad only get him a couple of birthday gifts on his official birthday because we know he’s having his half-year birthday in June.
My research into how other families do it
I spent quite a bit of time researching what other families do for their children who have a Christmas day birthday and this seemed like the most popular.
Some families do a half and half event on Christmas Day, where they have their Christmas decorations up when they all get up and spend the morning celebrating Christmas, up until the point they are having Christmas lunch.
Then after Christmas lunch, they take down all the Christmas decorations and wrap up Christmas (no pun intended, honest!).
Then they put up all the birthday decorations and get out birthday presents and spend the second half of the day celebrating birthday style.
So last year we asked him if this is what he’d like to do instead but he said no as he loves the Christmas decorations and is very happy keeping his half-year birthday as it is for a few more years!
Some families don’t really make a big thing about it, and just have the two days in one, mixing and matching Christmas and birthday on the same day. But I knew from the moment he might have a Christmas day birthday, I wouldn’t be able to do both in one day, because of the feeling I felt when I was growing up when I received all my gifts pretty much at the same time.
Don’t misunderstand me, having a Christmas day birthday is magical and having a son with a Christmas day birthday is such a special and wonderful experience. I just want to give him what others have and that is two days of exciting build up.
We feel, for our situation and our family it’s important, in the right situations, to explain how some people aren’t as lucky as we are.
How some people struggle more than we do. Even though we do struggle ourselves, on occasions.
We also explain that he is very lucky to have the things he has and the life he has.
We don’t go over the top, and although we have explained that we are not well off; we explain about mistakes we have made with money in the past and how that can affect your future.
We also explain that although he gets treated and has 2 birthdays we have to work hard for these things and plan and save.
Obviously, we do all this in the language he would understand for his age group; we try to not make it too heavy.
I just think it’s important to start instilling these types of lessons into him from an early age, still letting him have a fun, carefree childhood, just giving him bits of knowledge right from the start.
What would you do if you’re child had a Christmas day birthday? Or do you actually have a child who has a birthday on Christmas Day? I’d really love to hear how you would celebrate or how you do celebrate.