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Here`s a list of 6 things Ive overcome to be a blogger and you can too.
Blogging didn’t come naturally to me, heck no! After 3 failed blogs I figured me and blogging would remain firm enemies for life.
Thankfully that is not true; here I am, blogging away and calling myself a blogger after swearing that I would never be able to do it!
So what’s different this time you ask? Well chuck, here’s the thing, I’ve come to terms with a few things this time.
I’ve been coming to terms with these issues most of my life if I’m being brutally honest!
I sat and thought long and hard about what barriers I was putting up and I worked through them as best as I could; I hope this helps you to start work through your barriers too.
So here we go 6 things I’ve had to overcome to be a blogger:
Things Ive overcome to be a blogger – Fear
Up until recently, I feared pretty much everything, I don’t mean I feared watching the TV or reading a book. What I mean is, I feared starting a blog, being confident, building my reselling business, using social media to promote the said blog.
I`d worry about every little detail that I could think of going wrong and explode those thoughts until they became disasters in my own mind. The thing is, and I learnt this in one of my counselling sessions. I catastrophise about many things.
What is catastrophising? Here’s what Google says: “view or present a situation as considerably worse than it actually is.”
It’s hard to accept but catastrophising is all in the mind. Just as fear is; most of the time. Yes, there are some dangerous situations which evoke fear, (our bodies are naturally attuned to sense fear, which is why our body react with fight or flight syndrome, when we are in a really dangerous situation, something else I’ve learnt in counselling!) but for the purposes of this post, I’m talking about non-dangerous situations.
How did I and can you overcome the fear, when you want to start a blog, here’s just a few short ideas to help you get started:
- I read a lot of other people’s blogs, small blogs, big blogs, magazine style blogs. I did this to get a feel for what was out there. When you do this, you begin to realise that fear touches a lot of people who start blogs, everyone worries about “am I good enough?”, “will anyone read it?”.
- I started to follow and engage with various bloggers on social media. Before I even had a blog, which made me realise that many bloggers are kind, helpful, people, who have just the same hopes and dreams as we do, they are just at different stages in their journey.
- I started to look at all the steps I needed to take to actually start a blog, and started to form a plan about how I was going to go about starting mine.
- I joined a few Facebook groups, for bloggers. Being in these groups gives you a bit of a support network if you find the right group. Join a few, get a feel for how the group is run and only stay in the ones which you feel fit your personality and needs.
The thing is there will always be a little bit of fear of the unknown in the back of your mind, but this fear does diminish once you start. It’s just about making that start that you have to come to terms with.
Things Ive overcome to be a blogger – Embarrassment
Starting a blog is a brave thing to do, you’re putting yourself out there, laid bare for everyone to see, read about and have an opinion on. This led to me being embarrassed about all sorts of things!
“What if I make a mistake and make myself look daft?”.
“what if I don’t understand something, that’s so simple to everyone else?”.
“what if my writing is below everyone’s standards, and I look stupid?”.
First, of, everyone makes a mistake at some point when starting something new, you just have to convince yourself that it’s ok and just own it. Say “ok, I’ve made a mistake” and move on, don’t get hung up over it or worry about it, just move on, its how we learn.
Second, do you notice something about all my worries, they are all “what ifs”, no one ever achieved their dreams by listening to al the “what ifs”!, We could all come up with a thousand “what ifs” as excuses not to do something, but that’s not how we achieve our goals or grow as people.
Last of all everyone’s writing style is different and that is what is unique to you.
Things Ive overcome to be a blogger – Lack of confidence
This is still a difficult one for me, I’m actively working on building my confidence every day, but I still have wobbles.
“Is my work good enough?”.
“Why would anyone want to read my posts?”.
However, most of the things we worry about are things we just don’t know the answer to until we try.
Have a go, see what happens, analyse the results and adapt from there. Yes, you will probably still have a crisis of confidence but just go for it, give it a go. If you don’t it will end up as a regret and they are worse than giving something a go and it not working as you planned, in my book anyway.
It’s not easy, none of it is, but not trying is worse. Take your time, baby steps, but do take action and have ago, if it is something you have always dreamed of doing and you don’t, well, let’s not speak too much about regret in this post, I’ll save that one for another day!
Things Ive overcome to be a blogger- Lack of money
Having a lack of money can affect so many things we want to do in life.
For me I had to weigh up want I wanted the most, and how much money did I have to invest. The answer was not much!
What I did do is make sure I had enough for a hosting package, which cost me £33 for a year, a domain name which cost me £11 and something I knew I wanted but is not necessary was a professional theme which cost me £80.
I did extra side hustles over time and listed more items on eBay to cover these expenses. I had other expenses this time around which I’m going to talk more in depth about in a different post, I took on a mentor, which was honestly something I thought I would never do, but if I hadn’t done it; I wouldn’t be blogging at all!
You don’t need to have that much to start your own self-hosted blog, and I seriously recommend you have a self-hosted blog as opposed to a completely free blog.
At the time of writing this post, you could start a fully self-hosted blog for under £5 by buying a 99p domain name from GoDaddy, they are by far the cheapest domain name provider and then getting a hosting package, such as the TSO Hosts Start-Up UK Cloud Hosting package which costs £3.82 per month (correct at time of publishing July 2018).
You would then need to pay £3.82 per month to keep up with your hosting package. I did this for the first year of blogging (on a previous blog), no, it’s not the most cost-effective way, but sometimes you just don’t have a lump sum of money to invest.
If you buy your hosting package and your domain name from two different companies, you need to point your domain name towards your hosting package, once done this can take 24 hours to sort itself out. I’ll be writing a post on exactly how to do this later on.
Things Ive overcome to be a blogger – My inability to be consistent
This reason has thwarted 3 blogs so far, and I’ll be damned if it’s going to happen again.
I know why I’ve had a lack of consistency, its because; for each blog I started, I didn’t have a plan, or any real clue what I wanted to blog about, or how to really go about it properly.
It took me three goes to realise what I needed to do. Should I have closed down my previous 3 blogs, probably not! I could have just redirected my domain name to a previous blog, but I didn’t know this at the time.
You really need to start off with the minimum of a blog and post plan.
Ideally, you need to have a rough idea of what you’ll be blogging about and what niche you fall into or a rough idea of a few topics you will concentrate on in the beginning and you need to have a rough idea of which posts you need scheduling once you have launched.
Obviously, there is more to launching a blog than the points I have just made, I will in the near future do an in-depth, plain English post on how to set up a self-hosted WordPress blog.
Things Ive overcome to be a blogger – Comparison syndrome
Again this one still gets me a little even now. Comparison syndrome is when you can’t help but compare yourself to someone else. We’ve done it since time began,
“Her bums smaller than mine”.
“Her hair is better”.
“He’s got bigger muscles”.
We also do it online,
“That blog is better than mine!”
“She writes better posts than I do!”.
Don’t do it! Don’t put yourself through it, I know I sound hypocritical saying this, but hey, its a case of I can’t follow my own advice!
I’m getting better, I’ve realised that if I’m sat there comparing my brand new blog to a blog that has been live for 5 years plus, there is no comparison.
The other blog is older, the blogger is more experienced and has had more time to learn from their mistakes and improve things.
Just know this, we all do it to some degree, and sometimes it can push you on to improve things and keep going when things get tough. However, sometimes it can paralyse us, and this then stops any progress we were making.
So try your hardest not to compare yourself to anyone, you are unique and that is a very special thing.
As with everything I’ve mentioned here try and turn it around and make a positive out of it, otherwise, it just brings you down and puts you off carrying on, I know I’ve been there!
What I really want you to take away from this post, is that I’ve learnt from experience that if you really want to achieve something, no matter what it is, no matter what problems or issues you face, so long as you keep going, work hard and take baby steps you can achieve anything. If you give up and stop trying you won’t achieve anything.
So, if you have fear, embarrassment, lack of confidence; anything at all, take a step back and figure out a way around it, talk to others, share, research, but don’t give up, you can do it! If I can work through these 6 things ive overcome to be a blogger you can too, come on, if I can, you can!
Have you had to overcome anything to start your blog? OR are you currently working through some issues to begin your journey, I’d genuinely love to know, leave me a comment or pop on over to my social media, Id love to hear from you.